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Tommy Hindman-Five Tips for A Wedding Toast

Tommy Hindman On Giving A Wedding Toast

Tommy Hindman Attorney in Knoxville, TN
Tommy Hindman Attorney in Knoxville, TN

Hi, I’m Tommy Hindman Knoxville, TN Attorney. We often find ourselves at wedding and my be called upon or feel the desire to toast the bride, groom, or both. Here are five things to remember when toasting at a wedding:

1. It’s Not About You. This is a special day for the bride and groom. They have been planning months, maybe years for this day so keep it all about the Bride and Groom.  Talk about the bride’s beauty, the groom’s handsomeness, how they met, how right they are for each other-anything but that “great story  about that time” in which its 90% you and the Bride and Groom barely figure in.

2. Don’t Embarrass Anybody. Don’t embarrass the person you are toasting-this is true for almost any occasion and is  especially  true for weddings.  You might have grown up with the bride and groom and partied like rock stars in college. But a wedding reception is no place to recount the time all of you got hammered and ended up naked in a hot tub at a house you broke into. See #1 above and also remember the guests (think Grandma) may not think your story is all that funny.

3. The 70-30 Rule. Yes, it’s OK to use adjectives to describe the bride, groom or both. But in between the wonderfuls, beautifuls, and the I’m so happuy for you’s weave in a story or two. Try for 70% adjectives and 30% storytelling.

4. Wait For The Best Man. I am so surprised when I come across people that do not know this next piece of advice. When at a wedding wait until the best man has given a toast!!!!! It is the best man’s honor and duty to give the first toast. DO NOT be a douchebag and steal the spotlight. That’s why the groom chose the guy as his best man. If you do not follow this rule you will risk being cold shouldered by the bride. And if you think you don’t see enough of your bud now, violating this rule will get you banned from the bride’s (and by extension your buddy’s) social circle.

5. Don’t Get Drunk. I’ll say it again. Don’t Get Drunk. See rule #1. Sure one drink at the open bar to help calm down is fine, but pounding five shots and trying to make a heartfelt speech without blubbering along is a different matter. And if you need to get that hammered to speak in public maybe you should just lay off the hooch and leave the public speaking to others. You were invited to the wedding for a reason and your presence is enough.  Ignore this rule and people will be talking about you for weeks to come. And not in a good way.

If you keep these five rules in mind you’ll be the the wedding guest the bride and groom will remember. For all the right reasons.

-Tommy Hindman Knoxville, TN Attorney

Tommy Hindman on Introducing a speaker

Tommy Hindman on Stage Fright

Tommy Hindman on Coping With Stage Fright

Tommy Hindman Attorney in Knoxville, TN
Tommy Hindman Attorney in Knoxville, TN



Hi-I’m Tommy Hindman an Attorney in Knoxville. I often have to speak in front of juries, the press, and formal and informal gatherings. Many of you out there (as hard as you try to avoid it) will be asked to say a few words at a gathering such as a lunch, wedding, Bar Mitzvah, or business meeting. This brings up a huge amount of anxiety for many people. Here are some tips to keep your cool and keep stage fright at bay:

Prepare:
The better prepared you are, the more relaxed you will become. Practice your speech by putting each main point on a three by five index card. This will accomplish a couple of things-first this will keep you from reading your speech word for word with your head buried in the podium. Second, it will allow you to make eye contact with the audience and make them (along with yourself) feel more at ease.

Once you have the main points on your index cards, practice your speech about four of five times standing up. Then, record your self (preferably on video) and look for rough spots. To some, this might be terrifying but trust me-it helps immensely. Look for places where you pause too long or use “uh” or “umm” too much (here is a great article on reducing the number of “Ummms” in your speech)

Visualize:

Once you have the rhythm of the speech down, close your eyes and visualize yourself giving the speech. Visualize yourself giving the speech effortlessly, the audience laughing at your jokes, and you getting a nice round of applause.

What If?

Many of the anxieties associated with stage fright and public speaking come from thinking “What if?” What if I make a mistake? What if I forget what I’m saying and so on. Well, guess what? Even if you do make a mistake or forget what you’re saying you’re the only one who is going to know. If you lose your place or your train of thought just take a deep breath and pick up where you left off.

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Tommy Hindman-Hints on Nominations

Tommy Hindman on Nominating Speeches

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Hello, I’m Tommy Hindman an Attorney in Knoxville, TN. If you are a member of a fraternal organization or active in your city government, church, or synagogue. you may find the need to say a few words to nominate someone in the organization or community to a position on a board, council or governing body. Here are some examples to get you started:
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1. Everybody knows who I will be nominating for the office eon president. I know this person more intimately than I know some of my family members and would rather spend more time with him than some of my family. I have worked with this person in many capacities over the years and I can tell you that I have never met a more ethical, caring, wise and savvy human being. As you know I have been an assistant to this person for a very long time and I have an intimate knowledge of what this person can and will do for our organization. All of you have privately and publicly acknowledged what this person has done for our fine organization, so I do not need to go any furher. Ladies and gentleman, I nominate for president (insert name here).

2. I am not a good speaker. Even if I was, I do not think I could find the words to describe the unique abilities and qualifications of the person I wish to nominate for (insert position here). Their qualifications speak for themselves. Their services and contributions to this organization are well known and common knowledge. No one has given as much when called to duty as this person and they have truly made the welfare of this organization their own. It is my unique pleasure to nominate (insert name here) for the office of (insert office here)

3. In the spirit of brevity, I move that all incumbent office holders be nominated for reelection, to the positions they now occupy, and I move they be elected by a voice vote to hold their positions for another year.

 -Tommy Hindman Knoxville TN Attorney

Attorney Tommy Hindman on Delivering a Euology

Attorney Tommy Hindman on The Euology

Tommy Hindman Knoxville Attorney
Tommy Hindman, an Attorney in Knoxville, TN

Hello, I am Attorney Tommy Hindman. When a friend, loved one or business associate passes away you may be asked to say a few words in honor of the deceased. In situations like this one may be difficult to come up with the words to express grief. The following examples can be used as a starting point for your eulogy.


Example 1
He was a man in the very best sense of that meaningful term. Those who knew him loved him; the better they knew him the more they loved him. He possessed great personal charm; men were drawn to him irresistibly. John
Doe now rests in peace, but his noble
spirit remains to comfort us. He is deep in our hearts,
and will continue there, warmly, as long as there is life within us. His sterling qualities and his great works live on.

Example 2
In the passing of John Doe I have lost a great and good
friend, whose encouragement, counsel and wisdom have
meant so much to me over the years. The cause of charity
has lost a leader who gave unstintingly of his labor and
his time. We shall all miss him. His passing is a great
blow to his colleagues on the Board, where intimacy of
association added love to the respect entertained for him.

Example 3
It was my good fortune to meet John Doe a few years
ago. My contacts with him were frequent. He radiated
from his personality a charm and sweetness. As we go
through this busy life, each striving selfishly to survive,
becoming callous to the sufferings of our fellows, it is
remarkable and unique to meet a personality like that of
John Doe. I know that the impress he left upon me was
a durable one. I found him to be one of nature’s own children and he will be missed by people too numerous to count.
The Community is deeply saddened to hear of the death and
feels the loss of the Reverend Father Donald Dolan, the
great servant of the Lord in the church life of our community.
He was the distinguished friend of all the community,
regardless of race, or creed, whom he valiantly
supported in their difficult times. They are grateful to
him and devoutly bless his memory.

Ezample 4
The officers, Executive Board, and members of the
Community Center sorrowfully announce the death of
our president, John Doe, who for many years devoted
himself unselfishly to the interests of the Center. His
friendly and kindly spirit will be greatly missed by all
of us who had the privilege of serving with him. Because
of his interest in humanitarian endeavors, his loss will be
deeply felt by a great many.

Example 5
The officers of The Welfare Fund wish to express
their grief over ‘the untimely death of Mrs. Mary Roe,
who served as chairman of our Executive Board. She
gave unstintingly of herself as a leader of women and
devoted her life to the cause of philanthropy. The example
of her courage will remain as a source of continued
inspiration to all of us. To her family and loved ones we extend our deepest sympathy.

Use these as a starting point replacing the names and circumstances as needed. I hope the need for these examples is few and far between, but when the situation arises, you will be prepared.

By Tommy Hindman, Knoxville TN Attorney-At-Law

Tommy Hindman on Introducing Clergy

Tommy Hindman Attorney in Knoxville, TN
Tommy Hindman Attorney in Knoxville, TN

Tommy Hindman tells you how to introduce a man of the cloth.



Many people are at a loss for words when introducing Clergy. Here is a quick guide to help you out when introducing men of the cloth. The occasion may be a birth, a funeral, a tribute to a local hero, the giving of an award, a prayer breakfast, a lodge meeting,  or a ceremony of religious import. With these short introductions in your pocket, you will never be at a loss of words when asked to do the honors of bringing a person of the cloth up to the podium. First, here is a quick guide to the proper titles used for clergy of many faiths. First, here is  a list of how to address various clergy of different faiths:

Priest
“The Reverend Father
Delaney”

Monsignor
“Monsignor Hogan”

Protestant Clergyman
“Mr. Kirk”

(if D.D. or LL.D.)
“Dr. Kirk”

(if Lutheran)
“Pastor Kirk”

Rabbi
“Rabbi Lane”

(if D.D. or LL.D.)
“Dr. Lane”

Examples of Some Complimentary Remarks For Clergy:

He is a man of science, learning and skill. His profound
knowledge and experience have won for him
widespread recognition in his profession. Like many men
of accomplishment, he is unaffected and unassuming.
He is a fine leader of his flock and he is considered a fine counselor
and giver of advice.

He has performed his official duties with unswerving
integrity and fearless determination. His forthright, frank
and honest attitude in relation to public matters stamps
him as being destined for higher office and responsibilities.

He gives lavishly of his time and effort. His sincerity
and integrity have earned him the respect and admiration
of all of us.

We are aware that many men who attain high positions
continually grow in stature. From the very beginning
the career of our next speaker has been one of growth and a thirst for spiritual knowledge.

Tommy Hindman Knoxville TN Attorney

Tommy Hindman Knoxville Attorney-Opening Your Speech

Tommy Hindman on Introducing a speaker
Tommy Hindman on Introducing a Speaker

Tommy Hindman Knoxville Attorney on the art of: Opening Your Speech

Hello, I’m Tommy Hindman, an attorney in Knoxvile, TN. From time to time you may be asked to say a few words at an occasion. Here are a few ways to open your remarks after being introduced:

Intro #1:I fully appreciate that at this hour, after the entertaining addresses we have listened to, it would be an imposition to hold your attention for all but the briefest time.

Intro #1:
It is difficult to express my appreciation of the honor which has been conferred on me by inviting me to address this gathering.

Intro #3:
I consider it a very great honor to be asked to occupy the platform for the next few minutes.

Intro #4:
I appreciate very much this opportunity to address you men an women, and I am deeply grateful for the confidence and for the honor of speaking to you for the next few minutes on the subject of (insert subject here)

Intro #5:
Thank You. Now, if you will permit me, I am going to be using these notes, not to encourage the expansion of my remarks, but instead to use them as an anchor to keep me nailed down to a short period of time.

Print these out, commit them to memory, and you should be ready to take the podium for any speech and introduce yourself and any subject matter. Remember, most people will form their opinion of you within the first thirty seconds, so committing these to memory will help you make a great first impression, grab the audience’s attention, and get your speech off to a great start.

You also might be interested in my previous post on introducing the speaker. Also, this post.

 

-Tommy Hindman Knoxville Attorney

 

 

 

Tommy Hindman on Introducing a speaker

Tommy Hindman on The Art of Introducing The Speaker

Tommy Hindman on The Art of Introducing The Speaker

Introducing a speaker
Tommy Hindman on Introducing a Speaker

From time to time you may be asked to introduce a speaker at a function such as a banquet, awards dinner, seminar or other business occasion. Here’s how to do it with grace and style-pick from any of the suggestions below (don’t forget to insert the correct name and title) print it out and you’re ready to go.

1.He is a man of knowledge, learning and skill. His profound knowledge and experience has won him wide spread recognition in the field of (insert profession here). Like many persons of accomplishment, he/she is humble and unaffected. Ladies and gentlemen (insert name here).

2. We are aware that many people who attain high positions continually grow in stature. From the very beginning, the career of our next speaker has been one of continuous growth and accomplishment. It is my please to introduce (person’s name and title).

3. Through his/her intellectual force and and the depth of his/her understanding she has done much to explain the (insert profession here) scene to a wide audience. He/She has a knack for engaging an audience and I’m sure you will be put under his spell. Please welcome…

4. He/She has demonstrated his/her warm hearted humanity and deep concern for for the welfare of the less fortunate by unceasing service and devotion to many charitable causes. Please welcome…

With these short introductions under your belt, you’ll never be at a loss for words. Commit them to memory, print them out, or copy them to your smart phone and you’ll be ready to introduce anybody at any place or time-be it an impromptu toast, a formal function, a business dinner, family get together or bachelor party.

For a few more tips on introducing a speaker click here.

-Tommy Hindman Knoxville, TN Attorney.

The Art of the Toast of Praise (Or, Tommy Hindman Tells You How To Make A Speech At The Last Minute)

Tommy Hindman Knoxville TN Attorney on The Art of The Last Minute Speech

From time to time, you may be called upon to make a speech on short notice that praises a friend, acquaintance, co-worker or even a near stranger. No one in the business world should be at a loss for words in this situation. Here are some approaches to such a toast below. Some of them may sound a little formal, but you can easily adapt these to suit your personal style:

1. Your deeds speak for you far better than any words I can say. You have devoted yourself to numerous humanitarian causes. And your involvement in these activities is so extensive it seems  one lifetime could not hold enough hours to encompass them all. Yet, you have found the time and energy to serve, to work hard and to lead, shouldering the burden with ever present good humor and grace.

2. Your many activities have brought you richly deserved recognition in the past.

3. You combine  hard work with dynamic action. You have the reputation of being honest and ethical. Your knowledge of the people you have worked with and their faith in you has helped to restore public confidence in their fellow man (or name of company if applicable). (Organization) is extremely grateful to you for the service you have preformed.

4. I am so sorry from a selfish standpoint to see Ms. Jane Doe leave our organization (or retire, whatever the case may be). I have depended on him/her to such a great extent that I will miss them deeply.

Tommy Hindman Knoxville TN Attorney