Hi, I’m Tommy Hindman Knoxville, TN Attorney. We often find ourselves at wedding and my be called upon or feel the desire to toast the bride, groom, or both. Here are five things to remember when toasting at a wedding:
1. It’s Not About You. This is a special day for the bride and groom. They have been planning months, maybe years for this day so keep it all about the Bride and Groom. Talk about the bride’s beauty, the groom’s handsomeness, how they met, how right they are for each other-anything but that “great story about that time” in which its 90% you and the Bride and Groom barely figure in.
2. Don’t Embarrass Anybody. Don’t embarrass the person you are toasting-this is true for almost any occasion and is especially true for weddings. You might have grown up with the bride and groom and partied like rock stars in college. But a wedding reception is no place to recount the time all of you got hammered and ended up naked in a hot tub at a house you broke into. See #1 above and also remember the guests (think Grandma) may not think your story is all that funny.
3. The 70-30 Rule. Yes, it’s OK to use adjectives to describe the bride, groom or both. But in between the wonderfuls, beautifuls, and the I’m so happuy for you’s weave in a story or two. Try for 70% adjectives and 30% storytelling.
4. Wait For The Best Man. I am so surprised when I come across people that do not know this next piece of advice. When at a wedding wait until the best man has given a toast!!!!! It is the best man’s honor and duty to give the first toast. DO NOT be a douchebag and steal the spotlight. That’s why the groom chose the guy as his best man. If you do not follow this rule you will risk being cold shouldered by the bride. And if you think you don’t see enough of your bud now, violating this rule will get you banned from the bride’s (and by extension your buddy’s) social circle.
5. Don’t Get Drunk. I’ll say it again. Don’t Get Drunk. See rule #1. Sure one drink at the open bar to help calm down is fine, but pounding five shots and trying to make a heartfelt speech without blubbering along is a different matter. And if you need to get that hammered to speak in public maybe you should just lay off the hooch and leave the public speaking to others. You were invited to the wedding for a reason and your presence is enough. Ignore this rule and people will be talking about you for weeks to come. And not in a good way.
If you keep these five rules in mind you’ll be the the wedding guest the bride and groom will remember. For all the right reasons.
-Tommy Hindman Knoxville, TN Attorney
Hi-I’m Tommy Hindman an Attorney in Knoxville. I often have to speak in front of juries, the press, and formal and informal gatherings. Many of you out there (as hard as you try to avoid it) will be asked to say a few words at a gathering such as a lunch, wedding, Bar Mitzvah, or business meeting. This brings up a huge amount of anxiety for many people. Here are some tips to keep your cool and keep stage fright at bay:
The better prepared you are, the more relaxed you will become. Practice your speech by putting each main point on a three by five index card. This will accomplish a couple of things-first this will keep you from reading your speech word for word with your head buried in the podium. Second, it will allow you to make eye contact with the audience and make them (along with yourself) feel more at ease.
Once you have the main points on your index cards, practice your speech about four of five times standing up. Then, record your self (preferably on video) and look for rough spots. To some, this might be terrifying but trust me-it helps immensely. Look for places where you pause too long or use “uh” or “umm” too much (here is a great article on reducing the number of “Ummms” in your speech)
Once you have the rhythm of the speech down, close your eyes and visualize yourself giving the speech. Visualize yourself giving the speech effortlessly, the audience laughing at your jokes, and you getting a nice round of applause.
Many of the anxieties associated with stage fright and public speaking come from thinking “What if?” What if I make a mistake? What if I forget what I’m saying and so on. Well, guess what? Even if you do make a mistake or forget what you’re saying you’re the only one who is going to know. If you lose your place or your train of thought just take a deep breath and pick up where you left off.
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Hello, I’m Tommy Hindman an Attorney in Knoxville, TN. If you are a member of a fraternal organization or active in your city government, church, or synagogue. you may find the need to say a few words to nominate someone in the organization or community to a position on a board, council or governing body. Here are some examples to get you started:
1. Everybody knows who I will be nominating for the office eon president. I know this person more intimately than I know some of my family members and would rather spend more time with him than some of my family. I have worked with this person in many capacities over the years and I can tell you that I have never met a more ethical, caring, wise and savvy human being. As you know I have been an assistant to this person for a very long time and I have an intimate knowledge of what this person can and will do for our organization. All of you have privately and publicly acknowledged what this person has done for our fine organization, so I do not need to go any furher. Ladies and gentleman, I nominate for president (insert name here).
2. I am not a good speaker. Even if I was, I do not think I could find the words to describe the unique abilities and qualifications of the person I wish to nominate for (insert position here). Their qualifications speak for themselves. Their services and contributions to this organization are well known and common knowledge. No one has given as much when called to duty as this person and they have truly made the welfare of this organization their own. It is my unique pleasure to nominate (insert name here) for the office of (insert office here)
3. In the spirit of brevity, I move that all incumbent office holders be nominated for reelection, to the positions they now occupy, and I move they be elected by a voice vote to hold their positions for another year.
Many people are at a loss for words when introducing Clergy. Here is a quick guide to help you out when introducing men of the cloth. The occasion may be a birth, a funeral, a tribute to a local hero, the giving of an award, a prayer breakfast, a lodge meeting, or a ceremony of religious import. With these short introductions in your pocket, you will never be at a loss of words when asked to do the honors of bringing a person of the cloth up to the podium. First, here is a quick guide to the proper titles used for clergy of many faiths. First, here is a list of how to address various clergy of different faiths:
“The Reverend Father
(if D.D. or LL.D.)
(if D.D. or LL.D.)
Examples of Some Complimentary Remarks For Clergy:
He is a man of science, learning and skill. His profound
knowledge and experience have won for him
widespread recognition in his profession. Like many men
of accomplishment, he is unaffected and unassuming.
He is a fine leader of his flock and he is considered a fine counselor
and giver of advice.
He has performed his official duties with unswerving
integrity and fearless determination. His forthright, frank
and honest attitude in relation to public matters stamps
him as being destined for higher office and responsibilities.
He gives lavishly of his time and effort. His sincerity
and integrity have earned him the respect and admiration
of all of us.
We are aware that many men who attain high positions
continually grow in stature. From the very beginning
the career of our next speaker has been one of growth and a thirst for spiritual knowledge.
Tommy Hindman Knoxville TN Attorney
Hello, I’m Tommy Hindman, an attorney in Knoxvile, TN. From time to time you may be asked to say a few words at an occasion. Here are a few ways to open your remarks after being introduced:
Intro #1:I fully appreciate that at this hour, after the entertaining addresses we have listened to, it would be an imposition to hold your attention for all but the briefest time.
It is difficult to express my appreciation of the honor which has been conferred on me by inviting me to address this gathering.
I consider it a very great honor to be asked to occupy the platform for the next few minutes.
I appreciate very much this opportunity to address you men an women, and I am deeply grateful for the confidence and for the honor of speaking to you for the next few minutes on the subject of (insert subject here)
Thank You. Now, if you will permit me, I am going to be using these notes, not to encourage the expansion of my remarks, but instead to use them as an anchor to keep me nailed down to a short period of time.
Print these out, commit them to memory, and you should be ready to take the podium for any speech and introduce yourself and any subject matter. Remember, most people will form their opinion of you within the first thirty seconds, so committing these to memory will help you make a great first impression, grab the audience’s attention, and get your speech off to a great start.
From time to time you may be asked to introduce a speaker at a function such as a banquet, awards dinner, seminar or other business occasion. Here’s how to do it with grace and style-pick from any of the suggestions below (don’t forget to insert the correct name and title) print it out and you’re ready to go.
1.He is a man of knowledge, learning and skill. His profound knowledge and experience has won him wide spread recognition in the field of (insert profession here). Like many persons of accomplishment, he/she is humble and unaffected. Ladies and gentlemen (insert name here).
2. We are aware that many people who attain high positions continually grow in stature. From the very beginning, the career of our next speaker has been one of continuous growth and accomplishment. It is my please to introduce (person’s name and title).
3. Through his/her intellectual force and and the depth of his/her understanding she has done much to explain the (insert profession here) scene to a wide audience. He/She has a knack for engaging an audience and I’m sure you will be put under his spell. Please welcome…
4. He/She has demonstrated his/her warm hearted humanity and deep concern for for the welfare of the less fortunate by unceasing service and devotion to many charitable causes. Please welcome…
With these short introductions under your belt, you’ll never be at a loss for words. Commit them to memory, print them out, or copy them to your smart phone and you’ll be ready to introduce anybody at any place or time-be it an impromptu toast, a formal function, a business dinner, family get together or bachelor party.
For a few more tips on introducing a speaker click here.